This little guy may be stubborn and hard headed and strong willed.......but he is probably also one of the most sensitive kids I know. He can be sweet and thoughtful and cuddly and hilarious. What would I do without my little monkey in the world?
This has been a hard week for him. I think it is a combination of things- summer ending (so our relaxing schedule is out the door), nerves from starting a new year, being tired from getting up early and long days, starting a school year without Jason (I know that we have all secretly felt it. It just still feels so wrong that he isn't here), etc..... On Tuesday night, Shawn was tucking the boys in for bed and we were saying a family prayer and afterwards he reminded them that he wouldn't see them until Friday night because he had a business trip the next day. I got Cooper situated in his own bed and out of nowhere the tears started. Huge crocodile tears were streaming down his cheeks as he tried to get out questions like "what if Shawn's plane crashes and he dies?" or "Is Shawn going to die and never come back like dad?"
Oh, this just breaks my heart that this precious boy has to carry the weight of these questions on his shoulders. The frustrating part is that I can comfort him and pray for the right words to speak to him but in the end......this is his reality. His daddy did die and is never coming back so it's perfectly normal that he would worry about this. I know I do.
What makes this situation tricky is that I can no longer look my boys in the face and tell them that nothing will happen. I can't promise them that Shawn or I will always be okay. I can try to guide their hearts into a "no worry" zone but that's even hard for adults to do sometimes. It's often difficult to fully explain peace and asking for God's will to a child.
The next morning on the way to school Cooper says "if you and Shawn die, what happens to us?" I went through the plan (that I pray never takes place) and reminded him that he has so many family members that will love on him forever.
Making chocolate chip muffins after school. Such a good helper!
On Wednesday after school, he had a huge crying meltdown until almost bedtime. Constant tears, lots of difficult questions, many "I miss dad" comments. It about did me in. I held back the tears for a while and then I just couldn't anymore. I was just as big of a mess that night too.
I jumped on Facebook and asked for specific prayers for this little guy. And within a minute I had so many comments containing sweet words and prayers for my guy. It was the only thing I could think to do (and I know that prayer is HUGE in situations like this) and before bedtime he finally calmed down.
The next day, he seemed back to his old self. Which made this mama so happy to see. I know that his sadness and questions and meltdown are all normal and expected........it's just that he rarely has them so when he does they are pretty ugly.
I feel so honored to have amazing friends in real life and even on here.....people that don't really know us but have followed our story and continue to pray for us. Thank you.








































